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  just paid $400 out of pocket for a dentist to fill in cavities in my children’s baby teeth and i am still low key convinced it’s a scam

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  it’s crazy to me how much grief i experience from engaging with the world and seeing so much evil prevail it’s devastating to my mental health to read so much people trying to kill me both indirectly (doug ford, brad bradford) and directly (every piece of shit anti-trans chud), it’s exhausting

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  this afternoon i’m going to go montreal in order to attend a 48hr dance party - sadly the last of its kind - and i cannot wait

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  i just got back from a 48hr dance party in montreal if olivia wins i want you to know that we manifested this

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  i need to buy a wifi router and/or mesh network capable thingy that a) does not need to phone home in order to work and b) ideally costs less than $300 CAD and this is surprisingly difficult to find in 2026???

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  RE: https://mstdn.chrisalemany.ca/@chris/116998990952138579 I had a few minutes so I did the same: Harry Potter has become a hate symbol within the queer community, its deeply disappointing to see Tims have this partnership. Give'em a call!

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  gaaaahhhh i just injected myself for the first time!!!!!!! it’s so metal to jam a needle in your body!!!!

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  we noticed some water damage in this overly big house we just moved into and so i called a roofer and the roofer was like “lol this thing is falling apart” and he sent me a quote and the quote to replace most but not all of the roof is thirty thousand fucking dollars and i am still reeling

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  I have a personal theory that hysteria – being hysterical – is in fashion right now, and is downstream from the rise of fascism. ppl with power are hysterical and divorced from reality, and so everyone feeds into this absurd mania: https://ludic.mataroa.blog/blog/ai-mania-is-eviscerating-global-decision-making/

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  turns out i have to get about half of my roof replaced (GROAN) but maybe this is a good time to think about solar panels. has anyone reading tackled this?

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  just called my local Liberal MP to complain about bill c-22. i was less informed about the surveillance but i gave him a earful about how age verification is going to harm queer communities & make kids less safe. staffer told me this was the first phone call they've gotten. y'all pick up the phone!

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  in the past 52 weeks i went dancing 53 times. here are some semi-idiosyncratic beliefs i’ve developed around raves, dance parties, dancing. - one hour dj sets can be good but never great; you need at least two hours to really say something interesting - sets recorded live are better than sets recorded in a studio (not controversial) - crowd quality is very important; a truly great dance party has excellent music and an excellent crowd - the best parties ban cellphones - 3-4am at a party that go...

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  i shared a bit of skin in a cheeky instagram post and it attracted a chaser — and so i experienced my first bout of unwanted (presumably) male attention. the guy messaged me on a friday, followed up on tuesday, i soft blocked him, he refollowed then sent me another msg the following saturday the persistence is creepy; i found myself scrubbing links to my real identity (it’s an open account) before i hard blocked him. i’d heard of these patterns from female friends but experiencing it first ha...

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  I just discovered that substack silently errors out of the “subscribe to this newsletter“ flow if you’re on a mobile browser and don’t continue within the app. i only figured this out by accident when i went looking for the confirmation email and couldn’t find it haha what an evil dark ui pattern! stop using substack!!! they’re already turning away your readers

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  excited to fill out the census!!!! i’ve always been the kind of dork that enjoyed filling out the census but i wasn’t trans the last time we had a census and now i get to be Counted and i really wanna know how many more of us turned trans! problem: deciding what labels i want to use

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  the daycare workers at our daycare are unionized and have successfully bargained for themselves more time off which will be a slight inconvenience for me personally but i am very happy for them

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  it seems unfair when i have been at my most idle when my body most desperately needs exercise and movement THAT is when i least feel able to act on it. yes, i am dying but the idea of going for a run feels like a punishment

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  being queer doesn’t mean you’re a *good* person but it does make you a better person than you would have been otherwise; and this is now a core belief of mine

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  (fear and trembling posting) abraham's sacrifice of isaac is an act beyond ethics and rationality, because of a deep seated feeling that it'll worth it on the other side to transition your gender is an act beyond ethics and rationality, because of a deep seated feeling that it'll be worth it on the other side problem: do you have an absolute duty to god to transition?

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  After the recent Rubygems drama, I felt anxious, and trapped, frustrated that I can’t escape evil people trying to dominate my life. I found myself grieving, and mourning the future I grew up thinking we would have; but also feeling hope, that it’s not too late to stop enabling these people, and start choosing kindness. I wrote about these feelings. Join me in building a better future: https://okayfail.com/2025/in-praise-of-dhh.html

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  after 8 years of working at GitHub i finally had reason to learn how git works; i guess in all this time i’ve only been working on the Hub parts anyways git it turns out is pretty cool and straight forward.

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  woke up and chose violence (towards our bookshelf)